Saturday, April 12, 2008

Getting Back to "Normal"

It has only been 2 days since my mother passed away. My brothers both left this morning, one had been here since Easter and the other just got here yesterday. No more nurses round the clock. My mother was with us for about twenty months. It is now back to just my husband and I, and it will be an adjustment. There is more to do than I had realized. Hospice has to pick up medical equipment, and another company will be coming Monday to pick up a CoughAssist machine and my mother's hospital bed. My niece in Iowa is planning to leave this week to drive down here, and next week-end everyone will be back (including nieces, nephews, grandchildren etc.) here to just get together at the park or somewhere not determined yet. I ordered a bed for my mother's room, which will now be a combination sewing and guest room, and it will be a few weeks before it gets here. Meanwhile, I have sorting and organizing of my mother's things, and the same for mine to go back into the room. It is hard to go through my mother's things as it feels like an invasion of privacy. I am starting to feel like my blog is a real downer, I feel like it is me, me, me, and I'm getting tired of myself. Hopefully, it will be better when I get back to working on things, meanwhile my apologies to anyone who had the patience to wade though this.


gingerquilts said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this tough time. I admire your devotion and dedication to your mother. I hope your quilting helps you find some peace like it does me. Take care of yourself!

Amanda said...

You're allowed lots of 'me-time' after the death of your mother - don't feel guilty about it. It's absolutely crushing to lose your mother and then to have to deal with all the business details and then to sort out all her belongings. Just go with it and there will be some light at the end of the tunnel soon.

Renee said...

I'm so sorry to read/hear about your Mom. I lost my husband in
'92 and felt the same way going through his things. Now is the time to take your "me time". My thoughts and prayers will be with you at this time. Take care. Renée

Candace said...

Ginger, Amanda and Renee,
Thank you for your prayers and encouraging words. It helps to know that everyone has to go through this at sometime, that it is a part of life. It still is hard, but I have lots of good memories.

BitnByAQuiltingBug said...

Please don't ever feel like you are "bringing" any of blogland down. The reason we all have one and read others is for everyday life. What you are dealing with is part of life. You can feel free to vent to me anytime as I have been in the aftermath of losing a loved one who I cared for in my home. It's such an adjustment. My prayers are with you during this and remember that in time it is easier to deal with. You did a wonderful thing caring for her. An amazing amount of people won't or can't do what you have done for her.